Selling Your House During a Divorce

Selling Your House During a Divorce

Moving home is a significant undertaking at any time, but when you are also going through a divorce there can be some additional issues to consider. Many couples will need to sell property during a divorce so it is important to think about how you will manage this process. You should also ensure that you get all the support you need, not only from your divorce lawyer, but also through selecting a trustworthy and experienced realtor and appraiser to value and sell your property.

Should You Sell Your Home When You Get Divorced?

Dividing up your assets is a key part of arranging a divorce. Since the marital home is usually the largest asset that you share, it is essential to think carefully about what will happen to it when you separate. Putting the property on the market is the most common option for divorcing couples in Colorado, but it isn’t always the right choice for every couple and you shouldn’t feel pressured to rush into a quick sale. Selling a home for the right price can take time and properties in many parts of Colorado are in high demand so there is no need to rush to find a buyer.

Most couples who are divorcing in Colorado will decide to sell their home and then split the proceeds. However, there are other options that you may want to consider. For example, one partner may be able to refinance the mortgage and buy out the other. You might also want to delay the sale, for example if want to keep the family home for a while in order to provide continuity for your children. The best option for you will depend on your personal and financial circumstances, so it is important not to rush into your decision.

You may also want to consider the local real estate market before deciding on the best time to sell. Take a look at the listings for similar properties and talk to a realtor to get an idea of how quickly you will be able to find a buyer. Get your property valued so that you know how much it would take to buy out your partner or how much you could each make if you sell now. You might decide that it is better to wait a while before selling, to rent out the property temporarily, or to make some improvements in order to raise its value.

When you are ready to sell your home, you should consider how you are going to manage the process while separating. Although your realtor will be able to help, there are some decisions that you will need to take together. You may prefer to do this in person or through an intermediary, such as your divorce lawyers or another neutral party. You can get advice on the process from your lawyers or a realtor who has experience managing property sales during a divorce.

Preparing to Sell Your Home

The basic process of selling your home during a divorce will be the same as at any other time. You will need to choose a realtor, have your home valued, arrange showings, and decide what to do when you get an offer. However, since you will be in the process of separating while all of this is going on, it is important to communicate with each other (directly or via your lawyers) and to make the important decisions early on.

One of the key issues that you will need to discuss is the price you are willing to accept for the property. Getting the property valued by a realtor will give you a good idea of how much you should expect to make. Your divorce settlement will determine how the proceeds from the sale will be shared between you and you can ask your lawyer for advice on this.

The valuation is a guide to how much your property is worth, but you will still need to consider what you will do if a potential buyer makes an offer on your home. You will both need to agree on how low you are willing to go if an offer below the asking price is made. Deciding this before you put the property on the market will enable you to negotiate more easily with the buyer when you receive an offer as you won’t need to take more time to discuss it between yourselves. Accepting a lower offer can help you to achieve a quicker sale, but it could also impact your budget for buying your next home so it is important to consider this decision carefully.

Another issue that you will need to decide on before you put the property up for sale is how you will manage the process. You will have various tasks to complete in order to find a buyer and arrange the sale. Depending on your circumstances, you may want to divide these tasks between you or for one of you to take on responsibility for the entire process. Among the tasks that you may need to complete are:

  • Preparing the property for sale (e.g. conducting repair work, touching up the decor)
  • Choosing a realtor and arranging the valuation
  • Setting up viewings or open houses
  • Negotiating with buyers who make offers on the property (via your realtor)
  • Arranging removals and ending contracts for utilities etc when you move out

Once you have a better idea of everything that needs to be done, it can also be a good idea to talk about the likely timeline for the sale. Your realtor can advise you on how long it usually takes for similar properties to sell in your area, but you may also need to consider factors such as your children’s schooling or how long it might take you both to find new homes to move into. If one or both of you are still living in the property, then you will need to take this into account when arranging viewings or setting the completion date for the sale.

Although it is impossible to set a definite timeline for the sale of your property, it can be helpful to have some idea of the timescale. You can set targets for accomplishing some tasks, such as arranging any repairs that need to be done or getting your house listed by a realtor. Doing this can help you both to make plans for your futures.

Buying a New Home After a Divorce

In addition to managing the sale of your shared property, you will each need to think about your next steps. You may want to buy your own property, so you will need to look for a new home at the same time as you are selling. You will need to consider two key points while you are searching for property to buy if you intend to use the proceeds from selling your marital home.

Firstly, you should work out how much your shared property is likely to sell for and how much your share of the proceeds will be as this is likely to determine your budget for the purchase. You will also need to take a careful look at your credit rating and finances in order to set your budget. It is a good idea to talk to a bank or mortgage lender early on so that you have a reliable estimate of how much you will be able to borrow. You can then ask your realtor for advice on your property search.

Secondly, you will need to consider what impact the sale of your shared home could have on the timing of your purchase or move. You may need to move into temporary accommodation if you get a good offer for your current property before you have a new home to move into. Alternatively, you may need to wait to complete the sale on your shared property until you or your ex-partner is ready to move out.

The realtor who is managing the sale of your shared property will also be able to advise you on your property search and to guide you through the process of buying a new home.

Starting the Sales Process

If you are in the process of divorcing, then you can contact a realtor to learn more about your options or to take the first steps towards selling your marital home. It is important to get all the facts so that you can make the right decisions about when to sell. You will also need to get the property valued so that you both know how much you are likely to receive for the sale, especially if you will be using the proceeds to purchase your next home.

The process of selling your home during a divorce will be very similar to any other property sale, but your personal circumstances mean that it is essential to communicate well and to coordinate your efforts. Discussing the property value and timeline with your ex-partner at the beginning of the process will ensure that you both have realistic expectations. You may also need to divide responsibility for various aspects of the sale between yourselves, although your realtor will be able to manage much of the process on your behalf.

Selling your home is a major life-experience, whether you are going through a divorce or not. Having a reliable realtor who knows the local property market well can make all the difference. If you need any guidance on selling your joint property or you want to arrange a valuation of your home, then you should get in touch right away.

Damon Chavez

Damon Chavez, Realtor
10135 West San Juan Way, #100
Littleton, CO 80127
Phone: (303) 649-6767

damon@coloradohousefinders.com
www.coloradohousefinders.com

Creating a Parenting Time Schedule for Your Family

Creating a Parenting Time Schedule for Your Family

Parents who are experiencing divorce, separation or a breakup will need to develop a formal parenting plan. One of the most important components of a thorough, useful and enforceable parenting plan is a parenting time schedule that considers your family’s needs and places the child(ren)’s best interests at the forefront. Sufficient time and thought should be devoted to the parenting schedule to help ensure a good fit.

The Colorado legislature has found that “in most circumstances, it is in the best interest of all parties to encourage frequent and continuing contact between each parent and the minor children of the marriage after the parents have separated or dissolved their marriage.”[1]

The foundation of a parenting time schedule is typically referred to as “regular parenting time.”  There are a myriad of different parenting time schedules to consider depending upon the percentage of parenting time that each parent will exercise. Below are a few of the most common parenting schedules. In the examples below Parent A = Green, and Parent B = Red.

Equally shared (50/50) plans:

5-2-2-5 Plan

Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday
Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday
Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday
Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

 

3-3-4-4 Plan

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

 

3-4-4-3 Plan

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

 

Week-on/Week-off Plan

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

 

Approximately 60/40 Parenting Plans:

4-3 Plan (156 overnights per year to Parent B)

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

 

Alternating weekends with mid-week overnight (130 overnights per year to Parent B)

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

 

80/20 Parenting Plan: 

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

In choosing the best plan for your family you should consider:  both parents’ work schedules, proximity of both parents’ homes to each other and to the child(ren)’s school and activities, the age(s) of the child(ren), and the child(ren)’s needs with respect to frequency of contact and frequency of transitions.

Generally, it is the best practice to include as much detail as possible in your parenting plan, including specific and consistent transition times and locations, identifying which parent is responsible for the child(ren)’s transportation, and defining methods of communication.  Parents may agree to deviate from the plan from time to time; but having a well-written plan to fall back on is critical when disputes arise.

In addition to the regular parenting time schedule, parents should design a holiday schedule to include all important religious and secular holidays, birthdays, and school breaks.  There is no universal holiday schedule that will fit every family; thus, it is important to ensure that your parenting schedule reflects your family’s individual practices and traditions.

A well-designed and comprehensive parenting plan will provide direction, consistency and predictability for both parents and their child(ren).  If you need assistance with drafting a parenting plan that best fits your family’s needs, you should consult with a competent family law attorney.

Nicole Hanson, esq

 

Nicole Hanson
Hanson Law Firm, LLC
44 Cook St., Ste. 100 | Denver, CO 80206
Ph: 303.459.2393
www.nhansonlaw.com

HOLIDAY PARENTING TIME: Teach Your Children Well

HOLIDAY PARENTING TIME: Teach Your Children Well

The words to Graham Nash’s song from the 60s still ring true. The sentimental message of this song is a perfect touchstone for those of you who are trying to navigate the emotionally rocky waters which surround holiday parenting time.  It can be challenging to manage shared parenting time during the holidays. It is even more difficult for those families with geographical and distance issues, blended families, and raw wounds of recent partings.

Opportunity
With challenges come opportunities. The opportunity is open to you to use the holidays as a time to “teach your children well” by role modeling positive interactions, kindness, and respect. October is a good time of year to think ahead and begin planning. Parents can try to keep the holidays a happy time for their children by avoiding conflicts. They can also work together to create schedules centered on their children.

Traditions
Parents can also work separately to create meaningful new traditions in their own households. Part of the pain when a relationship ends is the loss of certain holiday traditions. Remember that your children are experiencing this loss too.  New traditions can be created. However, you do not want these new traditions to be based in conflict and anger.

Change is Hard
None of this is easy. There may be new partners, step-families, many more schedules to coordinate, etc.  That is why having a touchstone, “teach your children well,” may help you stay grounded. The lessons your children glean from the cooperation and selflessness shown by parents will last them a lifetime.

Joy
Later in the same song Nash goes on to acknowledge that children provide teaching moments for their parents. Think back to how many wonderful moments of pure joy your children have already given you. You have been able to rediscover the joys of the holidays through their eyes. Now, during this time of transition and building new traditions, you have choices to make. Will you support and nurture them? Or will you add to their burdens? Holidays can be wonderful occasions or they can be fraught with pain and tension. Only the two of you can decide.

Conclusion
As the holidays approach each year, you can choose, again, to teach your children well. “So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.” Let this focus help you to leave them with the best blessing you can ever give them: your example of cooperation and love as you create a schedule that puts them first.

David Rolfe

David S. Rolfe
Attorney/Mediator
David S. Rolfe, L.L.C.
Off: 303-841-1181

Using BIFF to Address High Conflict People

Using BIFF to Address High Conflict People

In our day-to-day lives, we encounter all types of personalities.  Some are much easier to deal with than others. And too often, we don’t get to choose the players in our divorce cases, so we must learn how to work with others in an effective, respectful manner in order to get things done.

The key is to develop an array of communication skills so that we’re prepared for the different people, personality styles, and situations that come our way.  Teams depend on quick communications internally with colleagues as well as externally with clients in a variety of different mediums: phone calls, email, texts, meetings, etc.

In a perfect world, every communication exchange is efficient and to the point.  Divorce cases are made up of diverse people with different temperaments—from those who are calm, cool and collected to High-Conflict People (HCP)—all of whom have varying levels of communication skills and motives.  Toss in a couple disruptive people, whether they are clients or colleagues, and the probability of depleting productivity and morale is high.

Most every divorcing couple is in conflict, by definition.  And many of them are high-conflict individuals by nature which only exacerbates the situation.

Do these examples sound familiar?

  • Perhaps you dread reading the daily complaints in your inbox from your soon-to-be ex-spouse?
  • Have you ever received an irate email from a client, blaming you for their dissatisfaction and threatening to sue?
  • Do those written reviews from your High-Conflict clients just make you want to quit?
  • Having trouble collaborating on a divorce case with that certain person who never seems to actually work, and blames others for not getting things done?
  • Maybe you have a client who sends you countless antagonistic emails and consumes far more time than you can give to any one client.
  • Are you irritated with Karen and Bob’s never-ending series of aggressive emails to each other, all of which get copied to you?

These are just a few of the situations where you might find a High-Conflict Person or be an HCP’s target of blame.  Chances are it’s happened before and it will happen again.  Do you and your teammates know how to respond?

BIFF Responses, from a valuable book by Bill Eddy entitled Biff: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns, are specifically designed to help you address written hostilities, but this technique can also be used in person-to-person verbal confrontations.

BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm.  It’s a simple response technique that’s quick and effective in dealing with today’s High-Conflict communications.  I’ve used BIFF responses with great success in both my personal and professional lives, but they take practice!

BRIEF
Responses should be very short: one paragraph of 2-5 sentences in most cases.  The point is to avoid triggering HCP defensiveness in the other person and focusing them on problem-solving information.  The more you say, the more likely you are to trigger another negative response.

INFORMATIVE
Provide a sentence or two of straight, useful information in neutral terms on the subject being discussed.  Shift the discussion to an objective subject rather than opinions about one another.

FRIENDLY
You can start out by saying something like: “Thank you for telling me your opinion on this subject.”  Or: “I appreciate your concerns.”  Or: “Thanks for your email.  Let me give you some information you may not have…”

FIRM
The goal of many BIFF responses is to end the conversation—to disengage from a potentially high-conflict situation.  You want to let the other person know that this is really all you are going to say on the subject.  In some cases, you will give two clear choices for future action.  If you need a response, then it often helps to set a firm reply date.  If you are going to take action if the other person does not do something, then you could say, for example: “If I don’t receive the information I need by such and such date, then I will have to do such and such.  I really hope that won’t be necessary.” (Note this is both firm and friendly)

What’s the Goal?

There are usually three goals to consider with HCPs:

  1. To manage the relationship, such as when you work with the person, when this person is your child, or is a spouse with whom you’re negotiating a settlement, etc. In other words, when the relationship is important to you OR you have no way to get out of it.
  2. To reduce the relationship to a less intense level, such as with a friend, neighbor, or even a family member.
  3. To end the relationship, usually by phasing the person slowly out of your life.

How you respond makes a big difference to the HCP.  If you give him negative feedback, you will increase the intensity of his interactions with you, as HCPs can’t handle negative feedback.  It’s better to use BIFFs and avoid talking about the past as well as putting the emphasis on the desired future behavior.

I’ve used the BIFF technique in countless situations: defusing team disagreements, getting business partners (and married couples) unstuck from their defensiveness and deal breakers, keeping mediation and negotiation sessions on track and moving forward, breaking up family arguments that no one thought could ever be resolved, etc.  These tools will help prevent defensiveness, defuse arguments and create connections with teammates as well as family and friends.  Truly a must-have for your skills toolbox!

Deb Daufeldt, LPC, NCC

Deb Daufeldt, MA, MBA, LPC, NCC, PMP
Office Phone: (303) 662-1888
Mobile Phone: (303) 638-5295
deb@newchaptersolutions.com
www.newchaptersolutions.com

The Real Value of an Asset is Not on a Statement

The Real Value of an Asset is Not on a Statement

When dividing assets in divorce most people, individuals, mediators and attorneys alike, tend to focus on the property division spreadsheet.  Current asset and debt values from statements are deemed to be separate or marital and funneled onto the division worksheet.  Typically, above all else, the focus and end goal is to split property 50-50.  With so much emphasis on this spreadsheet that dictates the remainder of your financial future, is there anything missing that could dramatically skew the end results?

The old cliché of ‘nothing is certain in life except death and taxes’ rings loud and true in divorce, don’t ignore them.  It is important to realize that the value of an asset can drastically morph, being cut in half or double in value depending upon when the funds are needed.  Retirement accounts have tax benefits and may be invested more aggressively allowing funds to grow faster over a long period of time.  Money doubles every 10 years if invested at a rate of 7.2% per year.  However, if investments are needed to purchase a new home, pay legal fees or subsidize an individual’s life style, the amount of money available after-tax could potentially be cut in half.

Different tax rules need to be applied to different types of accounts.  For example, annuities versus stock accounts have different tax rules.  Roth accounts versus IRA or 401k accounts are significantly different and should be analyzed.  Additional withdrawal expenses such as surrender fees may be applicable to some accounts or penalty waivers available in other scenarios.

There is a tremendous value in taking the time to sit down with a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™ to support you in making informed decisions during your divorce regarding your future.

Amy Mahlen

Amy Mahlen, CFP®, CDFA®
AM Financial
7887 East Belleview Ave., Suite 100
Denver, CO 80111
Phone: (303) 875-8730
amahlen@mahlenfinancial.com
www.mahlenfinancial.com

Selling Your House During a Divorce

Denver Colorado Divorce – Real Estate and Quitclaim Deeds

My spouse wants to quitclaim me off the Deed of our home in Denver, Colorado.  What should I do?  Most couples think once a spouse has been quitclaimed off a property deed of trust in Colorado Divorce, they are no longer responsible for the mortgage payments.  By giving a quitclaim deed to your spouse, you have given up title “only” in the property.

I would strongly suggest you either refinance your Colorado real estate immediately or sell the house and forgo the quitclaim deed.  The quit-claim deed is often used as a simple way to give up all interest rights in real estate.  By giving up title to the property in a Colorado Divorce, you are still responsible for any loan that is in your name.

Typically, the spouse who keeps the real estate must refinance or sell the property to remove any mortgages.  If you are quitclaimed off of the property, you still are financially obligated to make the mortgage payments on the house during the sale or refinance period.  If mortgage payments are not made or made late, this could damage your credit score and affect your ability to purchase another house in the future.  From our experience with separation of real estate in a divorce, we have seen one spouse intentionally make late mortgage payments to spite the other spouse.  In addition, we have seen ex-spouses forgo the general maintenance on the house; whereby reducing the saleability of the house.

There is no reason to quitclaim either spouse from the real estate in a Colorado Divorce until the day of decree is final.  Again, you need to protect your interest and make sure that any agreements regarding the mortgage should be carefully specified in the decree.

I would strongly recommend you seek legal advice prior to making any decisions regarding the dissolution of any interest in your Real Estate portfolio.

Damon Chavez, Realtor
10135 West San Juan Way, #100
Littleton, CO 80127
Phone: (303) 649-6767

damon@coloradohousefinders.com
www.coloradohousefinders.com

Do I Really Need an Attorney?

You and your spouse have decided it’s better off for everyone to get a divorce, but if you and your spouse are getting along just fine, do you really need an attorney?  Don’t attorneys just make things worse?  If you do it yourself, what’s the worst that can happen?

Most couples experience serious sticker shock when meeting with a divorce attorney for the first time.  You want how much?!?! How come you can’t tell me the final number this is going to cost me?  After leaving the office, you will think to yourself “How hard can it be to get divorced?”  You do an online search and BAM there’s a website that just gives you forms you need for FREE!! All you have to do is fill in the blanks, mark a couple of boxes and you are divorced, right?   This may seem like a no-brainer if you’re getting along and are willing to reach an agreement.  Unfortunately, there can be serious consequences in a do-it-yourself divorce even if you are getting along with your spouse.

Did you know that one of the only careers where a pessimistic personality is seen as a positive attribute is being a lawyer?  Attorneys are trained to look at any situation and automatically think worst case scenario and then navigate ways around that worst-case scenario by adding in protections, making sure enough details are included.  This is what most do-it-yourself divorcing couples fail to do.  Most couples that are going through an amicable divorce never foresee that the parties won’t always see eye to eye, but it does happen.  This can lead to agreements that are frustratingly vague and possibly unenforceable.

Attitudes and feelings towards each other can change greatly even after the divorce is final. If something comes up and the Court has to get involved, it quickly becomes more expensive than if the couple had hired attorneys in the first place.  It is a lot harder to undo a bad agreement that has become an order of the Court then it is to have the agreements and orders prepared correctly the first time.

However, hiring an attorney may not look like you assume.  Divorcing couples have numerous options when it comes to getting a divorce.  One option is  “kitchen table divorce.”  This describes couples that are getting along and can sit down at the kitchen table and go through all of their assets and debts and decide who gets what.  They file the paperwork with the Court themselves.   Even so, it will always benefit you to hire an attorney to review the agreements to ensure there will be no surprises down the road.

Couples can also reach a settlement through mediation.  The mediator acts as a neutral negotiator who assists the couple in reaching agreements in dividing the assets and debts and also issues related to parenting and child support.  Attorneys may or not be involved in mediation.  If you are getting along with your spouse, but just need help with reaching the agreement, mediation may be the way to go.  You and your spouse can contact the mediator directly and share the costs.  The mediator will not help file any of the court documents, so you will need to do it yourself or hire an attorney to assist you.

Collaborative Divorce is also an option.  Collaboration takes a team approach by using neutral experts and working together to reach agreements thereby allowing the couple to make their own decisions on the outcome of the settlement.

The final option for couples is the “traditional” divorce through the court system with attorney.    This can be the most expensive with the parties taking an adversarial position against each other but is necessary if the parties are combative and not willing to compromise.

So, do you really need an Attorney?  The short answer is Yes, but it may not look like you first imagined.  An understanding attorney can help with any of the above scenarios and tailor our services to meet your families’ needs.

Sarah Wolter, Attorney

Extending Common Courtesies Into Your Divorce Process

Extending Common Courtesies Into Your Divorce Process

As most of us were growing up and being socialized, we were taught the skills to get along with others.  Barring personality disorders, mental illness or other major impediments there is little that holds us back from the exercise of those fundamental skills which we commonly refer to as manners or common courtesies. We use them in our everyday interactions with strangers we meet in passing: we hold the door on an elevator, we smile and say hello, we ask an older person if they need help, or we let someone with only a couple of grocery items go ahead of us.  These are the common courtesies that we casually extend to strangers.  We feel good about ourselves when we extend kindness to others.

Following or leading up to divorce or separation, the common courtesies may disappear. Relationships may be fraught with conflict and anger and most people are not at their best. Relationships with the ones we have divorced or separated from become strained and lack the simple common courtesies that we extend even to strangers. To build a more positive future, a return to those courtesies is needed.   There seems to be an even greater need for them with the people we are or were closer to than there is with strangers.

These are the people we have shared a deep and intimate bond with. Usually there is an ongoing relationship because there are still children to be raised together. While it may be easier to give a stranger the courtesies we think of as common because we don’t have the anger and history we have with an “ex” the truth is that we also don’t have the intimacy and shared family bonds. Finding the ability to give to that person the same treatment that you give regularly to strangers should not be so difficult when you consider the reward to yourself and to your children. Ask yourself – what prevents you from extending those courtesies to the other person? Are you extending those courtesies to your children? Think about it. Think about the example to set for your children. Examine your motives. Then make the effort and commitment.

This simple, but admittedly difficult, change in perspective to extend social kindness and respect may bring surprising changes to our lives and those of our children. Modeling behavior for our children is a basic parenting skill. More importantly, it brings more civility to your own life and to those around you.

David Rolfe

David S. Rolfe
Attorney/Mediator
David S. Rolfe, L.L.C.
Off: 303-841-1181

What Should I Include in a Parenting Plan?

Your Parenting Plan is the “master schedule” for the lives of you and your children after divorce. As a result, you should put it together carefully, making sure that it meets the unique needs of each family member.

When creating your Parenting Plan, you should discuss the following topics with your spouse:

  1. Parenting Schedule: What will your regular parenting schedule be? You should include details of the exchange, including a meeting place, time, and who is responsible for picking providing transportation.
  2. Holidays: In addition to major holidays, such as Spring Break, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, you should also think about other days that are important to your family. Some holidays to consider are: Memorial Day, Labor Day, New Years’ Day, Fall Break, July 4th, Easter, and Halloween.
  3. Vacations: How long of a vacation can each parent take with the child? Should there be parenting time with the other parent immediately before and after the vacation? How far in advance of the vacation do the parents need to notify each other?
  4. Extracurricular Expenses: If the child is enrolled in extracurricular activities or sports, how will the parties pay for these activities? Is there a limit on the number of activities in which the child will be enrolled?
  5. Decision-Making: Who will make major decisions for the children (educational, medical, religious, and extracurricular activities). Which parent’s address will be used for purposes of school registration? Do the parties wish to have the child attend a private school, or the normally assigned public school?
  6. Child Support: Child support is calculated through a worksheet on the gross income of both parties, along with other additions for health insurance, work-related child care costs, and extraordinary medical expenses. Be sure to include a due date for payment of child support. You should also choose whether child support payments will be made directly between the parents, or through the Family Support Registry.
  7. Dispute Resolution: The Parenting Plan should outline methods by which the parents can resolve a dispute, preferably without having to go back to court. There are many tools available to parents, including the use of parenting coordinator, decision makers, mediation, and arbitration.
  8. Medical Expenses: How will you split medical expenses for the children? In addition, one parent should be responsible for providing health insurance for the child.
  9. Dependent Tax Exemption: This is usually alternated between the parties in proportion to their income. Be sure you clearly define who can take the deduction each year.
  10. Exchange of Financial Information: You should include a provision that the parties will exchange tax returns each year, to determine whether child support should be re-calculated.

Katelyn Ridenour, Esq
One Accord Legal, LLC
katelyn@oneaccord.legal